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An Accident and Me!! May 10, 2005

Posted by Nilesh in Uncategorized.
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We had an accident!!
You will ask me what’s so worth-writing a blog about it. Frankly, there isn’t. But I am writing about it because there is so much more that happens along with the accident that it is interesting for myriad reasons.

Here’s the actual scene.
The city is Pune, the place is Deccan(one of the famous areas of Pune). I am in a car with dad and sis, with dad driving. The going is smooth and the setting is normal. Suddenly, dad slams on the brakes. There is a Pulsar standing ahead. Oblivious to dad, the signal has gone red. Dad tries his best to stop the car before the bike but fails. The car hits the bike from behind. The guy is thrown 3-4 feet. The bike slides some more distance.

We are in the car,shell-shocked but totally unhurt. We rush out of the car, get that guy up, get him and his bike aside. We ask him if he’s hurt. Thankfully, he isn’t. Though, what he is is totally dazed!! We offer him water and try to calm his shocked mind down.

By this time, we already have hordes of people around us. One enterprising old man seems extremely interested in what has happened. He rushes to the scene with gutso and starts his mediation. He alleges that dad has braked after hitting the bike and hasnt tried enough to stop in time. He says that the guy has fallen on his head and has been saved only because he was wearing a helmet. All through this, the guy is too dazed to speak. We admit that its our mistake and do not deny it. But the old man seems intent on creating a scandal there and finding a villian for the public to scorn. But, unfortunately for him, nobody is as vocal. Also, we offer complete assistance to the victim, so he’s not complaining either. People suggest us to go our ways and end this. I am not happy with the old man poking his nose into this. I tell him that if he has had his share of a good drama here, then he might as well leave. This enrages him and he erupts. It also draws objections from the crowd. I find it wise to shut up. We apologise to the victim, tell him to get back to us in case of any health problem observed later on and leave!!

End of scene.

Here, the interesting part for me, as you must’ve guessed, is not the accident itself but what followed. Indian public have redisplayed here their inherent curiosity in other people’s matters. It is understandable that people rush to the accident scene with the intention of helping the victim (which is not always the case). I can also digest the innate desire for sensationalism and excitement and whatever small dose of it an accident can provide. What I find extremely intrusive is the urge to push yourself into a matter between two parties – the victim and the perpetrator.

At the same time, indifference is not always welcome. Like in cases where the victim is not in a state where he can represent himself and the wrong-doer tries to take advantage of that. I can once more understand the neccesity of standing up for the victim.

However, when the parties are both in a state to communicate and resolve the issue by themselves, I think that the thing to do is NOT intrude or intervene in the matter and curb your instinct to find(if not found, create) a villian.

This is something I would always like to follow. What do you think?

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1. a tired soul!! - January 31, 2008

response to ur post: ‘if only it was an utopian world!!’
….on second thoughts may be the post was author’s attempt to hint the readers to minding their own business than leaving unnecessary comments..:)
but then its end of a busy day for me and i couldnt help but mention ur post was pretty interesting piece to end the day with and it reminded me of an accident i had in mumbai couple of years back..
cheers!


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